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His and Hers: The tale of two perspectives

How the Monsignor Carr Counseling Program helped to save our marriage

By Allison and Jamie


I feel that it is appropriate to acknowledge all that Catholic Charities has done in the past two years through the Monsignor Carr counseling services provided to us. Even though we recently ended counseling, our social worker’s advice, guidance and moral support will continue to mend us together in ways that we both never thought was possible.

I, too, was unsure and not confident that our marriage would continue.

However, the hard work of assessing ourselves gave us the confidence we needed to acknowledge our problems, openly explain our own perspective, and listen to the other’s perspective.

This was a game-changer for me and our counselor earned my respect.

I appreciated our counselor letting me speak when it was my turn, and following up with intelligent advice that continued the conversation. What I enjoyed best about counseling was the hints - visual gestures - that guided me in the way I could respond with confidence, rather than backing down.

Our counselor was exactly what we needed to work on our marriage. The calm, non-partial approach was what we really needed.

It is obvious that the professionalism and moral character defines Catholic Charities’ social workers. I personally want to thank Catholic Charities for everything it has done. I am no longer scared of what lies ahead because I know that we both agree that through the encouragement, help, advice, and tools we were given have given, we will be able to work through new and old problems instead of ignoring them. Thank you.


We want to thank Catholic Charities for counseling us for the past two years and to let the agency know that our counselor’s objectivity, insight and support truly helped us in our marriage. Through the education given to us, and how our emotions were managed simultaneously, our counselor helped us grow together when I didn’t think anything could save the situation we were in.

On our first day of counseling, we received reassurance that this was the place that we could come to heal. It was l was exactly what I needed to hear. I also appreciated above all how patient our counselor was with me all the times I was defensive, angry, silent and irritable. I am astounded at the patience and professionalism shown to me - really, I am.

The topics that were most important to us – not our counselor’s own agenda – were followed and helped us both explore our situation.  

I also want to note that the entire feel of Catholic Charities was very welcoming to us. Everyone that we encountered at the agency was professional, friendly and kind. We are also very grateful that we could work on the sliding pay scale when we didn’t have insurance. We will always donate to Catholic Charities.

I am a much happier person because of what I have worked through. Thank you.

*The names of this client couple have been changed to protect their privacy.